My last boyfriend had thrown a fit when I asked to look at his email since he had access to mine (I gave him my password, I don't care, I had nothing to hide.) He argued with me until sundown about privacy. My inuition served me a bad feeling. For 3 days I pestered him with questions, and he fed me denial apon denial of whether something fishy was going on.
I couldn't shake the feeling.
Finally, after non-stop asking, he came clean and told me he had been in correspondance with another girl. He liked someone else and had been talking to her over his email. I broke up with him on the spot-after chewing him out with my final words of course.
According to the dictionary, privacy is synonymous with secrecy.
This familiar situation has reared it's ugly head again. And again, I'm plagued by an unsettling feeling. Why would he care so much about me seeing his email/myspace if he has absolutely nothing to hide. I showed him my email/myspace no-holds-barred and he looked, but then refused to keep looking, as if he didn't want to give me leverage. He says it's a matter of principle that he refuses to show me; the principle of Privacy. He said I can look if I really wanted him to lose respect for me...which I don't! After 2.5 yrs why should email/myspace be so private? Keep your dreams, hopes, diary, to yourself...but messages to other people? Why?
Because of my past, I don't take secrets well in a relationship. My trust wavers...there can be no relationship without trust. What do you think...?
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